Category Archives: Education

Bad Apples at Library

Ok, so I wasn’t going to blog about this. I was just going to let it go…after I put it on facebook. Once I did that, I got such an overwhelming response from family and friends that I decided I needed to jump outside my comfort zone and take action.

It’s not technically a topic I would normally cover here…then again, it does pertain to the educational path we are on and the resources available in our community.

Here’s the story.

Last week, when we were at the library checking out, Jake, my tired and hungry almost-2-year-old, was crying and an older woman, who was on her way out, shushed him, got in his face and rather meanly told him he was at the library and shouldn’t scream and cry because it was rude. Did I mention he is only 2?

Then, outside the library, she waited for me and lectured me on how they can’t act that way at the library and I need to make them stop. I was so shocked. Hadn’t she seen me correct them? Hadn’t she heard me tell them to quiet down? I was frazzled and I couldn’t think of what to say so I just glared at her and apologized kind of meanly.

This week, the same lady accosted us as we were walking out of the library. The same one! We were going through the double doors to the outside and Jake started crying and she said. “Shh! You can’t do that here. It’s rude!”

My response: We are not in the library anymore so they are not being rude. You are.

Then I walked away.

The response I got from friends and family from this post ranged from shock to outrage. I felt better about how I had handled the situation after reading all of the comments. And comments I got…42 and counting. Some of them from friends who also attend the library and have had similar bad experiences, but not just with patrons, with staff.

I too have had problems with staff rudeness. Namely, from the librarian in charge of the children’s library. She regularly shushes, glares and follows my kids around waiting for them to do something wrong.

The children’s room is a separate area from the main library, with a door that can be closed. I assume this is because kids are learning and need to be taught how to behave at the library…we aren’t born with this knowledge. We don’t come out of the womb thinking…I must be quiet and respectful of others at the library. We have to be taught…something that can only be done through experience and guidance from parents and other adults.

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Jake playing at the train table.

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Joe playing at the castle table at the library.

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Reading program craft

I am trying to do this. I am trying to guide my boys and model respectful behaviour and expose them to different environments and experiences so that they learn. I want them to love the library and I am afraid, that due to the staff and patrons, they will learn to hate it.

Honestly, I didn’t want to go back after the patron verbally attacked my kids and my parenting skills…but what would that teach the boys? To back down from a bully? Because, that is what she is…a bully.

So what am I doing about it? I’m using it as a teaching moment. One to model for the boys a respectful response to rudeness. I’m proud of myself for “keeping my cool” and not shouting at the woman. But I’m less proud that the boys have seen Wwwme stand by, on multiple occasions, while the librarian is rude, unpleasant and all-around mean.

What does that tell them? That Mommy won’t stand up for them? That they are “bad boys” who need to be scolded at every turn while trying to learn how to behave? A librarian is in a position of authority and should not use said position to turn present and future taxpayers away from a place of learning and wonder.

So, in addition to what I am already teaching the boys about behaving at the library, I checked out a book. Manners at the Library. It’s a great book that constructively teaches kids how to behave giving reasons and examples. It’s not one page that says “It’s rude to be loud and cry”.

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Library haul, including Manners at the Library

My kids are 3 and almost 2 and, like all children, they are not robots to be controlled. They are little people who want to learn and do what is right, but they need to be taught, not belittled.

They also need to be taught how to stand up for themselves and have confidence in a constructive and respectful way–a lesson in preparedness for dealing with not-so-nice people. For that matter, maybe I need a lesson in confidence too.

So, I’m stepping outside my comfort zone. I’m writing a letter to the head librarian detailing my concerns about the children’s librarian. I’m citing examples of friends who now go to a different library because of her.

I’m standing up for my children and for myself.

Sure, I could just go to a different branch and maybe I will in the end, but this branch is too nice of a resource to let a few bad apples ruin it for everyone.

Perhaps, when I return the manners book to the library, I’ll suggest it to the children’s librarian as well as the rude patron. Seems like they could use a refresher.

Chalk Outlines

With the garden planted and growing, the boys and I have had more time to play in and outside. We’ve had a chance to get back to fun activities and experiments and games.

We’ve played with sidewalk chalk, making chalk outlines of each other and drawing letters, numbers and shapes.

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We played “Rocket Ship Blast Off!” I called out numbers and the boys “blasted off” from them.
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We made a parachute using a sandwich baggie, string and monkey chip clip. It did not work as well as I thought it would, but it entertained Joe who had fun letting it drop from the playset. I may try it with a coffee filter to see if it works any better.
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While inside, we play hide and seek, read books, hunt monsters, trace letters and numbers, finger paint and play games like Don’t Break the Ice, Go Fish and The Sneaky Snacky Squirrel.

So far, we are having an amazing summer. Joe signed up for the reading program at the local library so we all have fun reading books together about bugs, rockets, gardening and space aliens.

The summer is hot
Oh that it could last always
Green grass and bright sun

 

 

 

13 and 14 Status: Half-way Point

Time for an update on the status of my 13 Skills in 2014.

1. Sewing – The only thing I have done with this skill is hem a curtain we bought for our sliding glass door. It’s a little uneven and the fact that I used white thread (because that was what was already in the bobbin) is embarrassing, but at least you can’t really see the hem and it is functional.
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2. Auto Upkeep – No update.

3. Firearm Training – No update.

4. Wilderness Skills – I’ve reached out to friends to see if they would want to come and camp in our backyard too. That’s about as far as I’ve gotten on this one. We will probably set a date for sometime in August or September.

5. Teaching – I attended a homeschool convention and I learned quite a bit. One big realization I had–lesson plans and curriculums are great to have, but I want to be careful not to just have “school, at home”. Meaning that I don’t want to mimic classroom education. I want the boys to be able to learn by experience, get outside, go to the museum, park, zoo, etc.

I’ll still have goals and a plan for the year, but I also want to be flexible and be able to change the plan on the go. I think it important to “finish what you started” but I also think it’s important to course correct along the way. I stuck to what I started in college, even though by the end of my second year I felt in my gut that teaching in a classroom was not for me…was not my calling.

It took me 10 years to get back to what I really wanted. To write. True, the journey back helped shape who I am today and to learn that regrets are a part of life. But, I think by showing my boys it’s ok to adapt and improvise “the plan”, they will learn that it is ok to listen to their gut.

I have the design for the learning and supply space I want to put in the basement, but that is really the extent of my progress. The swale took priority.

6. Reloading – No update.

7. Health and Fitness – The battle against laziness continues. I really need to find some motivation to get this one going.

8. Raising Chickens – Now this is one we have really tackled with full force. The coop chateau is built, the watering system just about complete and the playpen is shaded. All we have left to do for this year is to finish up the watering system, put in the automatic feeder and install the laying boxes–and possibly get the solar panel installed and working. COMPLETE
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9. Bee Keeping – After attending the beekeeping seminar, we have decided to push this one back. There is a lot of up-front work so maybe in a couple of years we will be ready for this one. COMPLETE

10. Gardening – Our first swale has been installed, actually we dug two. The summer garden is planned and I’m almost done planting and I’m getting ready to plan the fall garden. COMPLETE

11. Archery – No update.

12. Blogging – Although I have not yet started learning about ways to enhance and promote my blog, I do feel that I am gaining followers and views every day. I would like to watch 5 Minutes With Jack to learn about more ways to gaining relationships and, possibly sponsors.

13. Canning – Still planning to do a lot of fall canning.

And that is that. So far we’ve completed 3 skills and another 3 are in progress leaving 7 that we have not started…but we are thinking about them so I hope that counts for something.

The Socialization Myth: Why It No Longer Applies

There is a common concern whenever homeschooling is mentioned. A look, a cringe and the question: what about socialization?

I’ll admit. I have a couple of reactions to this concern. My back goes up right along with my defenses or I start to wonder “oh no, are we making the right decision?” I get so flustered and then say the only thing that comes to my mind, “Oh, we’ll have playdates”, or worse, “Oh, we’re still just considering homeschooling.” Yeesh.

Later, I’m kicking myself for letting my emotions get the best of me and rolling my eyes at the response I gave. People aren’t usually asking as a criticism, they are genuinely wondering how my kids will ever be socialized if they don’t attend school.

I realized something after attending the APACHE conference this past weekend: I don’t know what people really mean when they ask this question and, I don’t think most of the people who ask it know what they mean either.

I think we have been conditioned as a society to view homeschooling as something weird. I don’t really know where it comes from. I knew plenty of weird, socially awkward kids in the public school I went to. I was one of them.

I often felt uncomfortable, frustrated and unable to understand others or communicate my thoughts and ideas with a group…I was almost painfully shy. It really wasn’t until I got out into the workforce that I truly learned these skills.

Isn’t that what being a teenager is? Isn’t it about learning how to interact with people of different backgrounds? Learning how to function in society…in the ‘real world’?

Then I asked myself: What is the best way to teach these skills to my kids?

Is it sending them to school to sit in rows with 30 other students in their age group and only have 5 minutes between classes, 20 minutes at lunch and a few minutes at the bus stop to ‘socialize’?

Or, is it taking them to the store, the park, the zoo, church…any place where people of all ages are and having them ask questions, make observations and talk without having to raise their hand?

Children learn by doing, seeing and experiencing. I’m just not convinced that the school does the best job of ‘socializing’ them and preparing them for the ‘real world’.

Homeschooling is gaining ground. More and more families are deciding to pull their kids out of public, even private schools for a variety of reasons…individual care and attention to specific needs of the child, concerns about academic standards, concerns about bullying…the list goes on.

Parks, museums, zoos and even colleges are gearing programs specifically to homeschooling families. Community theater, the local park district and community colleges make everything from sports to performing arts programs available to home schooled kids.

Perhaps the socialization argument once held water…perhaps. But, with the evolution of technology, social media and the internet, the argument has just become a knee-jerk response and it no longer applies.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Winter Activities: Week 1

After the hustle and bustle of the holidays, we are going to get back on track with our weekly curriculum. This past week, we didn’t get to all of our activities. In fact, we only got to one – the wreaths. And honestly, it was a complete bust.

Next week, even with New Year’s in the middle of the week, I’m hopeful that we will get to those activities as well as a few below.

Math Activity
In addition to the cribbage activity, we are going to get more familiar with shapes. As I’ve mentioned before, Joe knows most of the shapes on sight, but when he names them he says, “It has four sides.” No matter what shape it is.

I found this activity on The Measured Mom, a fun new blog I started following. Using shapes cut from construction paper rather than the foam the blog suggests, Joe and I will build trucks, trains, houses and anything else our imaginations come up with.

Language Activity
We are going to do the Christmas trees with ornament letters. I don’t care that Christmas is technically over. This is a cool activity.

Joe also got quite a few letter tracing books and Ray and I got him a Kindle and loaded it up with all kinds of educational apps that Joe loves.

Before you get too up in arms about the Kindle, let me just say that we are using it as a tool and not letting Joe just sit all day and play on it. One of the best things about it is the parental controls. We can limit how long Joe can play games, watch videos and “read” books.

So far, I’m happy to report that Joe gets bored easily and wants to switch activities quite often so he hasn’t spent a ton of time on the Kindle.

Science Activity
We are going to do the firework in a glass because it looks like fun, and it will be a hit with Joe. We’ll also play with the magnet set that Joe got for Christmas.

My mom got us a winter garden kit. All of the materials came in an egg carton and there is a chart for observing and recording your plant growth. It’s going to be such a fun activity!

Reading Activities
Joe got a TON of books for Christmas so we will be spending a lot of time reading.

Craft Activity
Trying a simpler craft this week. A paper frog puppet. It’s short, easy and Joe and Jake will both have fun playing with it.

And that’s it. I’m sure we won’t get to some of these, but that’s ok. Joe has plenty of educational toys to play with.

Fall Curriculum Planning

Without the garden to tend to, I’ve been a little lost. Activities with the boys have been relegated to movies, reading, games and the occasional experiment or craft. There is no real structure plan for our week so I end up aimlessly pinning fun and educational activities on Pinterest. Not productive.

So I decided to stop being lazy and put a plan for the week together. Now I’m not delusional. I know that having a plan means nothing with two little wild and energetic boys in the house, but I want to have something to shoot for each week so I don’t feel like I’ve accomplished nothing by the time Friday rolls around.

Here is my curriculum. Every week, probably Sunday, I will sit and search through my pins for lessons, activities, experiments, field trips, etc to plunk into each category.

Each day has a theme, so on Monday the activities we do will be centered around math and numbers. Now…that doesn’t mean that we won’t practice counting and recognizing numbers all week long…it just means that on Mondays, math is our main focus.

The same is true for every other day. Just because Tuesday we will be doing reading and writing activities, doesn’t mean that we won’t also practice those skills on Math or Science day.

Monday: Math Day
Tuesday: Reading and Phonics Day
Wednesday: Read-aloud, Trip to the library for story time
Thursday: Science Day, Experiment
Friday: Free Day

I want this to be as practical as possible. I don’t want the boys to just memorize and regurgitate facts without understanding the concepts behind them. I want learning to be fun for them and I want them to get excited about it. The “lessons” are going to be hands on. I am going to tailor them to what interests the boys.

Memorization has its place and so is a great skill to have, but it’s important to me for the boys to stay curious, to seek out knowledge…to learn by doing.

Book Collection

I love books. I love the way they smell…even the old musty ones. I love the way the paper feels on my fingers. I love that I can dog-ear a page and hear the voice of my Jr. High English teacher tsk-tsking. I love the weight of them in my hand and the sound they make when they hit the table.

Before we curbed our spending I used to be a bit compulsive about buying books. Sure, I would shop the bargain area of Barnes and Noble, but then I just thought I could buy more because it was such a good deal. I could have gone to the library, but those books weren’t mine. I wanted books to build up my personal library.

Since I majored in English in college, I kept all of the books from those classes. I kept my Shakespeare, my Poe, my Twain. I kept Many Luscious Lollipops, a gorgeously illustrated book about adjectives I got when I was in student teaching. I kept my Steinbeck, my Swift, my Cather. I even kept the novel one of my English professors published (it wasn’t really my style, but he signed it, so I kept it).

That’s how I ended up with such a large book collection. Now I am a mom so I collect children’s books. I am considering homeschooling so I collect books on education, math, early reading, phonics. I am an (amateur) cook so I collect cookbooks. I am a beginning gardener so I collect books on growing vegetables, flowers, trees. I am a…

I am always growing into new interests so my book collection will always be growing…and when I am done building my collection, I hope to have taught my children to love books as much as I do.

Little Helpers

There are times when I am in a hurry. I feel rushed to get the plants in the ground, to complete a chore or to cook a meal. I like for things to be done on time and I like a schedule.

Enter kids. With kids “on time” goes out the window and chores, meals and tasks are  interrupted and sometimes forgotten. I have learned to “go with the flow” and not worry so much when a schedule is broken. But, sometimes I slip and regress back to my old self.

Example. Today, Joe and I were outside gardening. I wanted to get the following done: plant peppers, plant okra, water everything. Jake was in the stroller sleeping and Joe wanted to help. He’s a great helper…just not a quick one. I felt myself getting anxious thinking of everything I wanted to get done. Joe was “helping” me plant the peppers. He was trying to pull them out of the container like I did and he was a little too rough and pulling leaves off the plants. Frustrated, I said, “Here, let me do it” and took the plant from him.

Why would I say that? He was trying to help and what’s more…he was learning. I stopped and looked at Joe and said, “Here, let me show you how to do it.” When I said that and showed him, he was so excited. I could see it on his face. I asked him to bring me another one and we planted the rest together. Not on a schedule, not rushed to get on to the next task.

I didn’t get everything I wanted to done, but I did spend time teaching Joe how to do something and welcoming the help he wanted to give. This was an important lesson for me, especially since I am considering home education. A schedule has its place, but there is something to be said for spontaneity, for taking advantage of a learning opportunity and for recognizing that opportunity when it’s right in front of you.

Telling Time

I found this idea on Pinterest to help teach a toddler how to tell time so yesterday I made it and showed it to Joe. He loved turning the “hands” which I made from pipe cleaners.

I know I am probably trying to teach him a lot of skills early that might be too advanced, but I believe what the experts say. A child’s mind is like a sponge…soaking up all kinds of information. The more repetition and exposure he gets to skills like telling time and learning early and basic math skills, the better off he will be in the long run. I will probably add a third paper plate to the back, spelling out the numbers.

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I also got him and early reader along the same lines as the Dick and Jane books, but this one features Pete the Cat playing baseball. I’ve read it to him a few times, and have now started to let him complete the sentences…”Pete has a…ball.” etc. I know that he has just memorized it, but I point to the words and spell them because he knows his letters by sight. I’ve seen this tip on several sites on fostering early literacy.

I’ve seen a lot of homeschool blogs that suggest when to start home education, what age is best, etc. I don’t think it is ever too early to start, and I have been exposing Joe to different skills for awhile now. I’ve read to him since he was a baby, even reading newspapers, magazines and novels I was reading. He started watching Sesame Street’s “Alphabet Jungle” before he turned one which I believe has helped him learn his letters. (I will forever have the theme song in my head due to the hundreds of times we have watched it, literally). When he started showing more interest in letters and pointing out A’s and B’s on different signs, I made flashcards with upper and lower case letters and pictures on the back (an apple for A, banana for B, etc).

I am by no means saying that Joe is a “genius” or “so advanced”. I’m just saying that I’m not waiting until he’s a certain age to start the process.

Home School Inspiration

I recently listened to a podcast entitled “Laurette Lynn on Don’t Do Drugs, Stay Out of School” on The Survival Podcast.

Don’t Do Drugs, Stay out of School

I loved this episode! Being a mother of a two-year-old and a six-month-old, both boys, I have been thinking about home schooling in a co-op or some sort of a network of other parents who home school for awhile. Per my previous post on home schooling, I am teeter tottering on the line between home school and public or private school. This podcast pushed me closer to the side of home schooling. I worry about the lessons, values and viewpoints taught in the public school system. Especially since government regulates most of what is taught. I had a couple of history teachers who seemed to rebel against this. They threw caution to the wind and taught the truth. I am also thinking about private school but the majority of what is taught may be the same as public, I’m not sure.

While I didn’t agree with everything Laurette said…I did find inspiration and oddly, clarity of purpose in the majority of what she said. I am fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with the boys after working full-time since graduating college up until the first year and a half of my two-year-old’s life. My husband and I worked very hard to pay off our student loans and our vehicles. We had over 50,000 in debt and paid it off in little more than two years. This hard work was, in large part, inspired by this podcast. I know not everyone has the opportunity to stay at home with their children so I consider us very fortunate.

Laurette said that a full-time parent could home school. That, although more difficult, it could be done and had cases where it was successful. I am unsure of how a full-time working (outside the home) parent could have the time/ability to home school their child. I cannot imagine that my husband and I would have been able to do so with the hours we worked. Most of the time I got to the daycare at 6:30 when they closed and then it was fixing supper, playing and reading books before a 9:00 bedtime. I’m sure as they got older it would have been a bit easier but we would have still been working the same hours.

At times, I found her a bit harsh on public schools and families where both parents work. That being said, I will be listening to Laurette’s podcast and checking out her sites to find out more about home schooling. I think the most eye-opening part of the show for me was when she commented on the way language can be used to manipulate and control so it is very important to teach your child to understand language and how it can be used…something not taught in all schools.

I’m interested to hear what other parents think about this…